Do Not Do YOURSELF the disservice of thinking
that there is something MORE important to do
than what you are doing RIGHT NOW!!!! C. Huber.
Really, truly…this is the Way.
Purify YOUR mind!
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All Right. Here we go. See if YOU are able to Come into Line & Shape Up YOUR MIND!
Take anything in your life that bugs you, makes you feel bad, hurt, angry, worried, upset; something that makes you plain nuts. Write it down. Here’s an example:
“She always talks to me in such a demeaning way.” Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
It’s YOUR turn.
Write down what bugs YOU!
Check to see if there is suffering in what you write down.
YEP. Suffering. This bugs me.
What is the cause of this misery?
Whatever YOU wrote down.
NO. That is not the cause! That is the trigger. The cause is in you.Don’t go any further until you are able to see the cause and the location of the cause.
If you continue to say, “THE OTHER is the problem…” you need to reflect on the second noble truth (there is a cause of suffering) in a way that you begin to see what happens in YOUR mind.
There is a CAUSE. WHAT causes YOU to suffer?
Then, ask: What happens when “I” suffer?
List for yourself what happens. Don’t skip any steps.
Things like…I hate it. I hate how she speaks to me in a demeaning way. Notice who and what is grasping the HATE. YOU are grasping the hate.
Good. This is a good start.
Hate is part of the Rule of Dharma; it is a blaggard of the small self who so desperately wants to run the show. Hate is one of the main blaggards. If you come upon ‘dislike’ ‘or ‘irritation,” “picking and choosing”…then, one of the lower foot soldiers of the small self is attempting to run the show. He is more of a bugger than a blaggard, but he wants to become a blaggard (untrustworthy person) and cook up some smoke around the “her” who spoke to me in a demeaning way. Hate follows blame as blame follows accusation and cursing.
Don’t let this happen.
Don’t blame the other in any way.
Don’t gossip or fuel it with stuff against the other. STOP the talking to yourself and others. Don’t talk about someone else!
Now the root of hate is DESIRE or CRAVING, it’s the dark side of it.
It’s dark because you can’t see it. You see the other as hate as in “I hate it when she speaks to me in a demeaning way.”
There’s the other side of this complaint, the darkened side, the side hidden from you.
If we rearrange the first complaint, we see “I don’t want something or another…”
The “don’t want” is a dead giveaway. Negative desire is still desire.
So…you want to end this suffering?
Then look how the small ego self, the one based on conditions of your life history has hold of the controls. YOU WANT HER TO SPEAK TO YOU WITH RESPECT. This sounds good but it is a DEMAND. Face that none of us can demand anything from anyone else. When we demand all that happens is the other goes away or goes underground with what they say, do, believe and all the rest.
Round and round you get entangled and enslaved to the external trigger. It’s quite painful, full of suffering and misery. The beast has you. Serenity is gone and you are entangled.
YES! ENTANGLED!
Don’t go back to trying to change THE OTHER, you must stay with changing your interior situation without blame or shame, hate or any form of like, dislike, or attachment. DROP IT!
shoulds
This interior work takes time. You must be willing to look and reflect deeply at YOUR mirror of YOUR EGO.
So, to go a little further you have a VIEW of your conditioned self as one who deserves to be respected and that you demand others respect the conditioned self. You may believe that there is a permanent self to defend. One who demands, takes a position, gets into all types of musts…and and not gonna take it type stuff. Got to stop this talk.
JUST STUDY YOUR MIND. THE CAUSE IS THERE!
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